Be Vewy, Vewy, Qwiet...

Dating in your 40's is difficult. Meeting single men who you're attracted to and are honestly interested in getting to know you and not just getting to know the inside of your vagina is quite difficult.  I mean, I'm sure my vagina is very interesting and inviting, but so is my mind. :)

I may have mentioned that I started online dating again a few months back.  I've had A LOT of first dates and only one second date and that second date turned out to be with a guy who has a history of domestic abuse.  Needless to say it didn't lead to a third date.

Well, I had a great first date last night that will hopefully lead to an even better second and then, well, let's be honest...I would like to eventually introduce him to my vagina.

This guy, we'll call him "Kung Fu," was cool, interesting, different and slightly odd, and pretty easy on the eyes.  All important qualities to Spiffy Chick. I did get the feeling, though, that he may have some commitment phobia.  I can point fingers because I, too, may have a touch of the phobia.

My view on dating is that if I meet someone who I'm attracted to, find interesting and enjoy sharing space with, I would like to focus my energy on that person.  That feeling is so rare that when I find it in someone who I can tolerate for an entire evening without wanting to make up a fake illness, I'd like to prolong the feeling.

I'm not saying that after the first date he should give me his class ring and letter jacket or that I'll promise my virginity to him (shut up).  I'm just saying that I find it easier to focus on one guy at a time...OK, maximum of two guys at a time.

Kung Fu told me that (paraphrasing) while he liked me and that he wanted to see me again, he was still going to be out "hunting" for other girls to date.  If and when we decided to start introducing our girl and boy parts to each other, THEN he would stop the hunt.

My question to you: do all guys constantly think that that there is something better around the corner, and if they stop hunting they'll settle for something "slightly less" than what they could have had?  Do men ever grow up and out of this delusion?  Does that extra shot of testosterone flowing around their veins make then think that by settling down, that they will eventually whither and die? 

Know that I'm not one of those girls who generalizes all men.  I know that not all men are commitment phobes.  Only the men that I'm attracted to, apparently.

So I've decided that if Kung Fu wants to hunt, then I'm going to keep hunting as well.  Afterall, I've always wanted to be a warrior like Itzpapalotl, the "clawed butterfly," and I can rock a loin cloth if necessary.  

Plus, there's this other guy, "GI Joe," who has potential...