What's a Spiffy Chick to do...

You may not know this about me, but I'm pretty good at giving advice to others - whether it is solicited or not. Relationship advice is my forte.  Again, I believe I'm good at it, those receiving my advice may tell you otherwise. What I'm not good at is figuring out my own relationship issues.  Or, in this case, stalled relationship issues.

First off, I think you all should know that among all of my wonderfulness, I have issues.  I don't trust people, I'm slow to let them through my surly facade and I often times find myself waiting for the other shoe to drop.  See, I can admit my own faults.

With that stated, I've been in a holding pattern of sorts with a guy for almost a year now.  The first "go round" I had my walls up and didn't make it very easy on him.  I felt he was moving too fast when I wanted to slowly get to know him.  I cut it off pretty quickly and, honestly, wasn't very nice about it. Afterward I performed a little internal self-analyzing and realized how much of an asshole I was.

When you ask a girl what she wants out of a relationship, one of the first things she'll say is to be with someone who wants to be with her and appreciates her.  I had pushed this guy away because I was scared.  He wasn't a jerk who led me on, he was a guy who wanted to get to know me.  Shame on me.

Fast-forward six months or so later. I apologized profusely, admitted my wrong and my faults and asked if he'd be willing to take it a little slower so we could get to know each other.  Well, it's definitely moving slow. We've seen each other a couple of times since then, but there has been little if any effort on his end this go 'round. 

Therein lies my dilemma.  What's a Spiffy Chick to do?  I don't understand his signals.  He's not speaking a language that I can interpret.  That's the best way I can put it.  In the words of the immortal 80's rock band Loverboy - Turn Me Loose (if you're not interested).

So, Spiffy (you may ask) why don't you just read the writing on the wall and move along?  Well (I answer) I'm not waiting around, that's for sure, I'm just confused and hoped he would give me a chance.

I'm not sure whether he reads my blog.  If he does, he'll know who he is and maybe this will light a fire under his ass.  Afterall, we've been stuck on the low end of the bell curve for quite a while...

Oh, and let this be a warning to anyone who crosses my path.  You could, one day, become blog fodder.  :)